Just for a moment
Last Friday I discovered that I was pregnant, it has been a long road to fall pregnant again, though here I was on Ben's birthday with a positive test. I was besides myself with excitement. I rang my haematologist and started on aspirin to try and maintain the pregnancy.
Well one week on and I am now losing that pregnancy as I started to miscarry last night. It is safe to say I am devastated again and already asking myself can and will I do this again. 
( I have a laproscopy booked to be done on the 13th April, again so far away, somehow I am trying to tell myself it will all be different after that.
When I got my positive test I booked an appointment with my obstetrician for next Thursday, suppose I will be cancelling that, though maybe I should be going. To be honest I don't know which Dr I should be seeing! Do I see my GP, just so he can give me platitudes and nod his head and say thats no good (it also takes 3 weeks to get in and see him!) do I call my gynae and tell him whats happened and see what he says? Do I just go to the ob and explain whats been happening since I saw him last in October!
A friend of mine told me I need to start recording my story on tape and when I see the a new dr just walk in and say, listen to this, I am going to get a coffee be back in 5 mins! 
Suppose I should have noticed something was not right when I had a smallish flare of my MS symptoms the past two days, though I thinking I was holding out on hope.... 
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sorry
Oh how sad for you and how frustrating. Nothing I can say to help here, but sending hugs and hope for the future.((())))
sorry to hear
Sorry to hear the bad news Amber. I likewise have little to console you with. What an emotional (and physical) roller-coaster ride. Thinking of you both. Steve
"...(I) will run and not be weary, walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:28
Hugs from me too
Been there done that and it still brings a tear to my eye 12 years on. Ya poor thing. I like your friend's idea - but maybe something a little stronger than a coffee
It will happen when the time is right. Stuff happens for a reason and unfortunately bad stuff happens to those of us that are strong enough to take it, bugger it, i wanna be a wuss!
Take care,
Shaz
I WISH I WAS A GLOW WORM. A GLOW WORM'S NEVER GLUM. COS HOW CAN YOU BE GRUMPY WHEN THE SUN SHINES OUT YOUR BUM.
So sorry to hear your news!!
Hi Amber,
I'm so very sorry to hear your news!
Personally, I think it would be wise to see your gynae as well as your GP.
On the positive side you know you can fall pregnant, so it's now a matter of working out why the rest is happening. I know right now that's probably not much of a consolation, but it is something positive.
I think it would be a very good idea if your gynae and haematologist conversed and worked with each other as well.
So to me, your gynae would be the best person to get the ball rolling with investigations but your GP may be the best person to write a letter to each of them requesting they work together on this given your history, while also keeping your GP in the loop of tests and outcomes etc. My neuro, cardiologist and GP do this.
It's good you're having the laproscope as they may be able to determine the cause by doing that.
But none of that takes away the hurt or the pain of what's happened.
Thinking of you,
Karen
Sorry... hang in there
Hi Amber,
Heartfelt for you and Ben. Take time out to grieve and heal, and review all options when you are feeling emotionally stronger.
my thoughts are with you,
Helen.
Hi Amber I am so sorry for
Hi Amber
I am so sorry for you both, and hope that the doctors can do something for you. I would ring the OB and see if they think its worth keeping your appointment with them. Wish there was something else we could do to make you feel better, and to help, but there isnt
Kristy
Life is like a box of chocolates.... never know what your going to get
So sorry to hear that Amber
Hi Amber,
What can I say? So sorry to hear your news Amber. It seems that you both are having a really bad trot at the moment. I agree with both Helen and Karen that a good way to move forward is to first allow yourself to grieve, take lots of big calming breaths and then get investigations done to see why it happened. My thoughts are with you too.
Lots of big warm fuzzy hugs OOOO,
Jodi.
"Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant" Robert Louis Stevenson.
Sorry
For now take care of yourself & Ben & try to relax together. dont forget to allow yourseves to cry if thats what you need to do too.
Hugs, Sue
Breathing in, breathing out, I return to my own blessed center.
I am ready to receive miracles!
It will be ok
Thanks Everyone for your kind words. I think I have learnt as much about pregnancy in the past 12 months as I have about MS.
I suppose this time around it has not impacted me as much as the last couple as the pregnancy would not have been viable, so it makes it easier to take.
Saw my GP today and we have an action plan, I will go and have my laposcopy done in March instead of April and see if we can find anything wrong in there that could be causing such problems and then we will start again.
So far only a mild couple of days of increase in symptoms, so I think I may have come away unscathed.
Smile, It Confuses People.....
plan
Hi Amber,
It' s really good to have a plan, even if it is to see what can be sorted. Take some time FOR YOU, do some self-nurturing, it's important to restore the spirit and the body,
take care,
Helen.
Sounds like a good plan
Sounds like a good plan Amber. And glad you didnt cop it badly MS-wise.
Take care of yourself,
Kristy
Life is like a box of chocolates.... never know what your going to get
Take care of yourselves
Hi Amber,
Glad that you have a plan worked out & that the laprascope can be done in March. That will make it easier for you & than you will at least know if there is anything else you can do etc.
In the meantime, relax together & take time out.
Glad that it hasnt affected your ms too much too.
Hugs
Breathing in, breathing out, I return to my own blessed center.
I am ready to receive miracles!